Dear Breastfeeding Mums – A Letter To Say Two Things

Dear Breastfeeding Mums

First things first, this is not a post “bashing” people who don’t breastfeed. I don’t care how you feed your baby, after all, it’s your baby, and I know that sometimes breastfeeding isn’t the best option for a mum or a family.

Dear Breastfeeding Mums…

I would like to say two things, I’m sorry and thank you.

Having not got on with breastfeeding with Oliver (more on this another time I’m sure), I was naive and ignorant prior to Grace being born. I saw mums I knew, and mums I follow on social media, breastfeeding and some things about it didn’t sit right with me.

I’m a prude, so lobbing out a boob for everyone to see was never going to be my cup of tea, but I never “got” why you would do this. I knew breastfeeding was recommended, and has lots of benefits for mum and baby, but I didn’t understand why you would keep doing it for longer than you “had” to. I didn’t really get why people thought they had to talk about breastfeeding so often, I found it a bit overwhelming.

Now I know I was wrong.

I’m sorry.

Because of you, I knew it would be ok to sit there with a boob out and not have to hide (not that I do this in public!). I now know that you don’t have to stop at six months, and the benefits continue for as long as you do breastfeed. I’ve learnt that breastfeeders talk about it so much to stop people thinking the way I did, to make it normal, and to try and give other mums the confidence to try breastfeeding themselves. I’ve found I’ve become one of those mums who talks about breastfeeding often, and I’ve been in the position myself offering support to other mums. This is all because of you.

Thank you.

To all the breastfeeding mums, whether you did it for one day, one week, one year, or more, thank you for being you and providing the support I (and others) need. Thank you for helping me become a better educated mum. I couldn’t have got this far without you!

Emma x

Breastfeeding Outside



Bringing up Georgia
Me, Being Mummy

13 comments / Add your comment below

  1. I was the same as you when I was pregnant with my twins. I had no plans to breastfeed them, and indeed I did bottle feed from the off. But after a couple of weeks I got this really strong urge to breastfeed them. So I tried. And failed.
    It’s a long story which involves having a support worker to the house, attending support groups and needing a hospital grade pump. But nothing worked. I couldn’t get a flow. So they HAD to be bottle fed entirely for the duration then.
    However, like you I don’t judge either option. I just wish things had been different for me.

    1. I’m sorry you couldn’t breastfeed when you’d tried so hard. I’m pleased you got lots of help and support to be able to try though!

  2. I think we all can confess to having less broadened views before we had kids? I certainly had no idea how hard breastfeeding was, and although I only stuck at it for 4 months, I salute any woman who does it – society certainly needs to step up on the whole making women comfortable to breastfeed issue. I totally agree with you.

    Thanks for sharing with #coolmumclub

    1. Thank you! There’s definitely a stigma attached to breastfeeding, it needs to be more socially acceptable then more mums might try it

    1. Thank you very much! I felt I had to admit my faults in order to let people know how much they helped me ?

  3. Aw this is lovely! Breastfeeding is definitely hard, no doubt about that. My first baby was a non-starter with the breastfeeding, 2nd baby went a bit better and 3rd was 3rd time lucky as I’m still feeding her at 8 months (yikes!). Total lols at the “lobbing” your boob out bit!!xx #coolmumclub

  4. Such a lovely letter for you to write! Breastfeeding is going well for me now, with my second. With my first it was a whole other story but I have found both bottle and boobs have pros and cons of their own. I love BF though! All those extra cuddles! Thank you so much for linking with #HoneybeeLinky! I hope you can make it for nexts week’s one as well! Xxx

    1. Thank you! There are definitely pros and cons to both methods of feeding, but I do love those cuddles you mention. Thank you for having me!

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